Loving Yourself

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Loving Yourself
Loving yourself is the focus of this blog. The reasons we learn to hate including how we repeat self-hatred daily through our self-talk and our inner critic judges us and reminds us that we fail or we are not “good enough.” At least 100’s of times a day if not 1000’s of times we do this. You don’t just stop negative behavior because it leaves a void. So the objective is to change negative, critical comments to positive, self-affirming ones that build up our self-worth and our confidence.  Learning to love yourself is important to us and our relationships with God and other people in our life.
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Once we realize that we are acting out of self-hatred through our inner critic or dialog, the cure is to change our inner dialog to loving thoughts of acceptance that we are good enough, and refusal to reinforce negative thoughts. The past negative habit is as addictive and takes time, practice and support by others in our lives to overcome. Through time, effort and commitment, we can change how we speak inwardly to ourselves and outwardly how we treat ourselves and let others treat us. Remember perfection is not the goal but “good enough” and self-acceptance is the goal.

 

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There are 10 Days to love yourself. Don’t worry. I am not into perfection but only doing your best. When you get to the end of the 10 Days, it is perfectly okay to repeat them until you feel you master them. I learned them a long time ago in a 12-step group and want to share them with you…

Ten Days To Love Yourself

DAY ONE

*** STOP ALL CRITICISM ***

CRITICISM NEVER CHANGES A THING. 
REFUSE TO CRITICIZE YOURSELF. 
ACCEPT YOURSELF EXACTLY AS YOU ARE.
EVERYBODY CHANGES. 
WHEN YOU CRITICIZE YOURSELF,
YOUR CHANGES ARE NEGATIVE. 
WHEN YOU APPROVE OF YOURSELF, 
YOUR CHANGES ARE POSITIVE.

 

DAY TWO

*** DON’T SCARE YOURSELF ***

DON’T SCARE YOURSELF.
STOP TERRORIZING YOURSELF
WITH YOUR THOUGHTS. 
IT’S A DREADFUL WAY TO LIVE!
FIND A MENTAL IMAGE THAT GIVES YOU PLEASURE
( MINE IS A WATERFALL),
AND IMMEDIATLEY SWITCH YOUR SCARY THOUGHT 
TO A PLEASURABLE THOUGHT.

 

DAY THREE

*** BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT ***

BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF. 
BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF
AS YOU LEARN THE NEW WAYS OF THINKING.
TREAT YOURSELF AS YOU WOULD 
SOMEONE YOU REALLY, REALLY LOVED.

 

DAY FOUR

*** BE KIND TO YOUR MIND ***

SELF HATRED IS ONLY HATING 
YOUR OWN THOUGHTS. 
DON’T HATE YOURSELF 
FOR HAVING BAD THOUGHTS.
GENTLY CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS.

 

DAY FIVE

*** PRAISE YOURSELF ***

CRITICISM BREAKS DOWN THE INNER SPIRIT. 
PRAISE BUILDS IT UP.
PRAISE YOURSELF AS MUCH AS YOU CAN. 
TELL YOURSELF HOW WELL YOU ARE DOING 
WITH EACH AND EVERY LITTLE THING.

 

DAY SIX

*** SUPPORT YOURSELF ***

FIND WAYS TO SUPPORT YOURSELF.
REACH OUT TO FRIENDS AND 
ALLOW THEM TO HELP YOU. 
IT IS BEING STRONG 
TO ASK FOR HELP
WHEN YOU NEED IT.

 

DAY SEVEN

*** BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES ***

ACKNOWLEDGE THAT 
YOU CREATED THEM 
TO FULFILL A NEED.
NOW YOU ARE FINDING NEW,
POSITIVE WAYS 
TO FULFILL THOSE NEEDS.
SO, LOVINGLY RELEASE
THE OLD NEGATIVE PATTERNS.

 

DAY EIGHT

*** TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY ***

LEARN ABOUT NUTRITION. 
WHAT KIND OF FUEL DOES 
YOUR BODY NEED TO HAVE FOR
OPTIMUM ENERGY AND VITALITY?
LEARN ABOUT EXERCISE. 
WHAT KIND OF EXERCISE CAN YOU ENJOY 
AND TOLERATE ACCORDING TO YOUR ILLNESS?
CHERISH AND REVERE THE TEMPLE YOU LIVE IN.

 

DAY NINE

*** MIRROR WORK ***

LOOK INTO YOUR EYES OFTEN. 
EXPRESS THIS GROWING SENSE OF LOVE 
YOU HAVE FOR YOURSELF.
FORGIVE YOURSELF, 
LOOKING INTO THE MIRROR.
TALK TO YOUR PARENTS AND LOVED ONES,
LOOKING INTO THE MIRROR. 
FORGIVE THEM TOO. 
AT LEAST ONCE A DAY SAY:
“I LOVE YOU.
I REALLY LOVE YOU”

 

DAY TEN

*** LOVE YOURSELF ***

DO IT NOW! 
DON’T WAIT UNTIL YOU GET WELL,
OR LOSE THE WEIGHT,
OR GET THE NEW JOB,
OR THE NEW RELATIONSHIP.
BEGIN NOW….
AND DO THE BEST YOU CAN!

 

 

What you have been doing for years is destructive to your inner soul. Today, you can change that through  following the above process to the best of your ability. Again, the goal is not perfection but self-acceptance. I have been down this road personally and can tell you how it destroyed my concept of who I was inwardly in my core. But through following the above principles, I was able to change and learn how to love myself. You, also, can learn how to love yourself.
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Susan…