It’s time for some Friday Fictioneers action again, which provided by Rochelle Weisoff-Fields. The photo, for which we need to write our 100-ish word story is below.
I encourage you to read all the other stories or to contribute your own if you like to write.
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Genre: Flash Fiction
Word Count: 109
The mutt followed Lisa as she took the shortcut from school each day. Today was no different. Strange things sometimes happened when she least expected. Like this strange mongrel dog following her every day for two weeks.
At the edge of the woods by the tracks, Lisa encountered a stranger. He eyed her and grabbed her arm, dragging her into the woods. The dog pounced on the strange man while biting his leg enough to loosen the man’s grip. The mutt disappeared as Lisa ran toward her home.
Lisa never took that shortcut again. Without the dog, who knows where she’d be today. “Thanks, mutt!” she said to herself.
How to love yourself is the focus of this blog; a continuation from my last blog where I discussed hatred and self-hatred, also called self-loathing. For details, you can read “Why Do I Hate” from February 23, 2015. I discussed reasons we learn to hate including how we repeat self-hatred daily through our self-talk. Our inner critic judges us and reminds us that we fail or we are not “good enough.” At least 100’s of times a day if not 1000’s of times we do this. I discussed steps to change negative, critical comments This lowers our self-esteem or self-concept inwardly within your inner soul. Learning to love yourself is vitally important to us and our relationships with other people in our life.
Once we realize that we are acting out our self-hatred through our inner critic or dialog, the obvious cure for this repetitive problem is to change our inner dialog to loving thoughts, acceptance that we are good enough, and refusal to reinforce negative thoughts. This habit is as addictive as smoking and takes time, practice and support by others in our lives. Through time, effort and commitment, we can change how we speak inwardly to ourselves and outwardly how we treat ourselves and let others treat us. Remember perfection is not the goal but “good enough” and self-acceptance is.
CRITICISM NEVER CHANGES A THING. REFUSE TO CRITICIZE YOURSELF. ACCEPT YOURSELF EXACTLY AS YOU ARE. EVERYBODY CHANGES. WHEN YOU CRITICIZE YOURSELF, YOUR CHANGES ARE NEGATIVE. WHEN YOU APPROVE OF YOURSELF, YOUR CHANGES ARE POSITIVE
~ ~ DON’T SCARE YOURSELF ~ ~
DON’T SCARE YOURSELF. STOP TERRORIZING YOURSELF WITH YOUR THOUGHTS. IT’S A DREADFUL WAY TO LIVE! FIND A MENTAL IMAGE THAT GIVES YOU PLEASURE ( MINE IS A WATERFALL), AND IMMEDIATLEY SWITCH YOUR SCARY THOUGHT TO A PLEASURABLE THOUGHT.
~ ~ BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT ~ ~
BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF. BE KIND TO YOURSELF. BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF AS YOU LEARN THE NEW WAYS OF THINKING. TREAT YOURSELF AS YOU WOULD SOMEONE YOU REALLY, REALLY LOVED.
~ ~ BE KIND TO YOUR MIND ~ ~
SELF HATRED IS ONLY HATING YOUR OWN THOUGHTS. DON’T HATE YOURSELF FOR HAVING BAD THOUGHTS. GENTLY CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS.
~ ~ PRAISE YOURSELF~ ~
CRITICISM BREAKS DOWN THE INNER SPIRIT. PRAISE BUILDS IT UP. PRAISE YOURSELF AS MUCH AS YOU CAN. TELL YOURSELF HOW WELL YOU ARE DOING WITH EACH AND EVERY LITTLE THING.
~ ~ SUPPORT YOURSELF ~ ~
FIND WAYS TO SUPPORT YOURSELF. REACH OUT TO FRIENDS AND ALLOW THEM TO HELP YOU. IT IS BEING STRONG TO ASK FOR HELP WHEN YOU NEED IT.
~ ~ BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES ~ ~
ACKNOWLEDGE THAT YOU CREATED THEM TO FULFILL A NEED. NOW YOU ARE FINDING NEW, POSITIVE WAYS TO FULFILL THOSE NEEDS. SO, LOVINGLY RELEASE THE OLD NEGATIVE PATTERNS.
~ ~ TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY ~ ~
LEARN ABOUT NUTRITION. WHAT KIND OF FUEL DOES YOUR BODY NEED TO HAVE FOR OPTIMUM ENERGY AND VITALITY? LEARN ABOUT EXERCISE. WHAT KIND OF EXERCISE CAN YOU ENJOY AND TOLERATE ACCORDING TO YOUR ILLNESS? CHERISH AND REVERE THE TEMPLE YOU LIVE IN.
~ ~ MIRROR WORK ~ ~
LOOK INTO YOUR EYES OFTEN. EXPRESS THIS GROWING SENSE OF LOVE YOU HAVE FOR YOURSELF. FORGIVE YOURSELF, LOOKING INTO THE MIRROR. TALK TO YOUR PARENTS AND LOVED ONES, LOOKING INTO THE MIRROR. FORGIVE THEM TOO. AT LEAST ONCE A DAY SAY: “I LOVE YOU. I REALLY LOVE YOU”
~ ~ LOVE YOURSELF ~ ~
DO IT NOW! DON’T WAIT UNTIL YOU GET WELL, OR LOSE THE WEIGHT, OR GET THE NEW JOB, OR THE NEW RELATIONSHIP. BEGIN NOW…. AND DO THE BEST YOU CAN!
What you have been doing for years is destructive to your inner soul. Today, you can change that through commitment to follow the above steps to the best of your ability. Again, the goal is not perfection but self-acceptance. I have been down this road personally and can attest to how it destroyed my concept of who I was inwardly in my core. But through following the above principles, I was able to change and learn how to love myself. You, also, can learn how to love yourself.